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The End Of An Era

In Richmond Revisited on December 6, 2012 at 7:36 pm

BY RYAN BYRNES AND BRIAN RUDDOCK

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An era has ended at the University of Richmond.

The Supreme Executive Committee of Kappa Sigma voted on Monday to withdraw the charter of the fraternity’s Beta Beta chapter, ending its 114-year existence on the Richmond campus. The committee’s decision was “a result of the recent behavior of the Chapter over the course of the past three years that has resulted in the Chapter violating the policies of the Kappa Sigma Fraternity and the University of Richmond,” according to a letter that was emailed to chapter alumni on Wednesday morning. Specifically, the decision stems from the chapter’s failure to adhere to stricter “trustee guidelines” and sanctions enacted during the past 18 months; an influx of complaints to the chapter’s alumni advisors from members of both the on- and off-campus community; and an increasingly deteriorating relationship with the university administration.

Rather than punishment for any one particular infraction, the decision to revoke the charter is more a measure of last resort for a chapter that seemed to leave its university and its national fraternity with no suitable alternative. “They simply have lost confidence in the chapter,” the fraternity’s Executive Director said of Richmond on Tuesday evening. At the fraternity’s national headquarters – located in nearby Charlottesville, Va. – there is a sense that the chapter was given repeated opportunities to clean up its act in recent years, but the committee saw little to suggest that the necessary adjustments were being made. ”You would hope that they would learn, but it appears the behavior just continued,” the Executive Director said. “People have really sort of had enough. We need to take a break.” Should the committee’s decision stand, the chapter would be permitted to return to the Richmond campus no earlier than the spring semester of 2016.

Word was delivered with much regret and received with much dismay. Here are the thoughts of two Beta Beta brothers of the Class of 2008 as they reflect on the unfortunate news out of Virginia. 

Brian: My first reaction to this news was to spew out profanity, loudly, in front of several coworkers. I couldn’t help it. Outside of my immediate family, no institution has had such a positive and measured impact on my life. My experiences as a brother in the Beta Beta chapter were invaluable. To know that it may cease to exist offends a selfish, sentimental part of me. Something that I truly love is gone.

Looking outward, I feel a deep sense of regret that other young men won’t be able to have what I have. It’s tragic. There’s a saying in the fraternity that “brotherhood is for life.” At 20, I assumed it was just another throwaway phrase without much meaning. Yet the longer I’ve been out of college, the more true the saying becomes.

Ryan: It’s not uncommon to hear one speak of their college experience as the “golden years” of one’s life. Irrespective of university or social standing, all have a freedom available to them during those four years that allows them to build relationships that long outlive any semester or undergraduate curriculum. My experience as a Beta Beta is a microcosm of the bonds I was grateful to build as a product of that freedom.

It is ironic that I received a letter notifying me of the chapter’s charter revocation on the same day that my law school hosted a swearing-in ceremony for those who recently passed the New Jersey bar examination. As one prestigious association opened its doors to a lifetime of great opportunity, I could not help but be sad for the current and future Richmond students who might now have the doors of Beta Beta opportunity closed on them.

Brian: Beta Beta was not a stereotypical fraternity. Ensconced in a university staffed by elite academics and wealthy students (annual tuition was well north of $40,000 by the time we graduated and has continued to climb), the fraternity was an embodiment of collectivism and inclusiveness. We were as diverse a group of college students as you could find. There were sons of Fortune 500 executives who had never worked a day in their lives; there were also brothers on financial aid, working multiple on-campus jobs to make ends meet. Some brothers partied five nights a week, and others went to church five times a week. An outside observer would – and sometimes did – wonder how we all got along.

There was just a sense that we had a great thing going, and the brothers were committed to maintaining it. This manifested itself in both unspoken codes of conduct (intra-fraternal disputes were shockingly rare) and formal processes. Pledging in particular was designed to deliberately build discipline and appreciation while bringing everyone, pledges and brothers alike, closer together. We often heard stories about freshmen in one fraternity despising the guys the year above them. For a Beta Beta, this was unimaginable. Eight years later, I still keep in touch with brothers who were seniors during my freshman year, and many of my best friends are years younger.

Ryan: Like many aspects of Richmond, the university’s Greek life system is unique when compared with other collegiate institutions. Fraternity executive committees regularly meet and communicate with administrative officials. Accountability is paramount. On-campus “lodges” serve as each fraternity’s quasi-private haven, yet are also heavily regulated by the university. Therefore, in order to survive, a fraternity’s desire for debauchery must be tempered with a reasonable respect for the rules. Beta Beta was able to successfully strike this delicate balance for decades, even while other campus fraternities faltered under the scrutiny of an increasingly strict administration.

The result was a group of young men that demonstrated the “work hard, play hard” mentality of the Richmond student body as well as any group on campus. While I cannot speak to the century’s worth of brothers to come before me, I can attest that the seven classes of Beta Betas that my college experience overlapped with carried the chapter’s strong legacy to each corner of the campus – from the business school to the science hall, from the Richmond College government chambers to the office of the campus newspaper. And when our respective academic and extra-curricular activities were attended to, and we gathered at our lodge or an on-campus apartment, there was no shortage of fun to be had.

Brian: Ironically, the onerous rule set added to the fun. Routine parties required extensive planning and coordination, and this in turn forced us to bond more. I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing Greek life at many other universities (Michigan, South Carolina, U.Va and Ohio State to name a few). I wouldn’t trade the Beta Beta version for any.

The big schools had the great football and the tailgates, but we more than made up for it with traditions like Lobsterfest. With nothing more than a Wiffle Ball set, a stereo and a few cases of beer, we established one of the most whimsical and heavily anticipated social events of the year. We’d meet every Friday and Saturday afternoon for hours-long D-Hall brunches, sitting 20 to a table rehashing stories over mediocre food. The city nightlife was a joke, and we preferred each others’ company to drinks we couldn’t afford in bars we felt out of place in. We had a hell of a time, to be certain, and I’m glad that some stories will remain secret. But we were very careful not to overstep our bounds. Self-policing kept us in good standing.

Ryan: College eventually ended, but the value of being a Beta Beta has continued long after I submitted my last dues check or attended my final undergraduate lodge party. Whether searching for a couch to sleep on during a cross-country road trip or a ticket to an out-of-town Yankees game, generosity from a fellow brother has never been more than an e-mail away. I recently sent a professional inquiry to a network of chapter alumni and, within minutes (literally), was put in touch with a Beta Beta 25 years my senior who was able to provide assistance.

Rather than fade into darkness like so many of those college nights have done, the relationships I have built with many in the chapter have remained strong.  From weddings to wakes, formal occasions to casual Sunday football, Beta Beta has remained a constant, something spoken of in the present tense rather than the past. And while I do not expect any of my relationships to change with this week’s news, it is certainly unfortunate to think that a chapter that has meant so much to so many may soon close for a period and perhaps change forever.

Brian: The formality and structure provided by the fraternity instilled a sense of loyalty that I’ll never forget. As a young man, it’s tough to move away from selfish impulses or have much of a sense of duty. Yet to this day, when we hear of a brother in need, there’s not so much a thought process as there is a reflex: you drop what you’re doing and help them. A native Ohioan with few roots in the tri-state area where I currently reside, I’ve never felt homesick. Rather, every local brother’s family has treated me like their own. I still talk to and seek advice from my Beta Beta “big brother.” When there was a shooting outside of my office in Midtown, my phone and Facebook account didn’t stop buzzing with inquiries from brothers making sure I was OK.

This sort of thing doesn’t just happen. It’s the result of years of hard work, with class after class cultivating a set of values and working to maintain them. In an increasingly complicated world with lots of uncertainties, I shudder to think where I’d be without this rock in my life.

Ryan: It’s difficult to know exactly how Beta Beta arrived where it did this week. As recently as 2006, brothers referred to the chapter as living through its Golden Era. Perhaps the demise began from within, with bad foresight paired with bad fortune leading to a departure from the path to the good of the order. Perhaps outside forces accelerated the downfall, with enough allegations made against the chapter – some true, some false – to overshadow the positive actions that brothers continued to do. Perhaps this is just one small example of a larger trend, the death of fraternities as we have come to know them in a litigious world full of universities and institutions looking to limit any potential liabilities.

Yet somehow, here we are. Outside of campus, I have no doubt that the bonds of Beta Beta will remain as strong as ever. But it is quite sad to think that a university with such a strong history will lose such a storied piece of its past. As for the present, the losses are numerous. A generation of Richmond College students will lose not only a Saturday night social option, but a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to be a part of something that is bigger than themselves. Fellow fraternities will lose not only a competitor in fun and in sport, but a fierce ally in Greek relations with the university. And up there on New Fraternity Row, at the second shack on the left, a Kappa Sigma lodge will lose its purpose. It will be leased to some other campus organization or, worse, to no one at all. After decades of mud and beers, blood and tears, song and dance, laughter and chants, that lodge will be occupied solely by the most unwanted of guests: silence.

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  4. Guys, well done here. Was glad to read it.

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